SEX IN THE CITY -the ecstasy of society

SEX SEX and more sex - isnt that what today's American society is about all about - sex once upon time in history use to be taken more seriously - but even in the christian religion it tends to look at sex only for husband and wife - 65% of the population is probably christian but I'm sure 65% of the American society isn't married. so what does that say right there? premarital sex has been going on for years - a lifetime - but today it is more common for junior high and up .oh so young . In junior high I was planning to wait until I was married to have sex but that is before I got my first real boyfriend - alot of things in life are easier said than done- I have yet to have sex at twenty years old and that is an accomplishment In this day in age. One constantly battles to be them self in a world that is about something different from what u want for yourself. it is like fashion trends if everybody is wearing skinny jeans - least likely will u see someone as myself still sporting bell bottoms lol- and bell bottoms only - whatever goes on in society is going to spread -one has decide for them self if they want to be a part of a fad or  to be different - its a lot of pressure to walk away from something or say no to something that is constantly being exposed in every commercial , tv show, celebrity ,and etc. In my church they fail to talk about the topic in depth which i think is really stupid but moving on - but if sex is something that we are constantly being exposed to, and being exposed to more of the good of it than the consequences -it makes it even harder to say no and hold off from . this is a topic i feel very strongly about - i think that its sad when the church fails to discuss it realistically - lets be real, most teenagers and children dont go to church willingly - and a child who is not there by choice and thar is told that sex is for married people and its a sin to do it outside of marriage.Children are rebellious and quite frankly if they choose to hold out from sex that will be the line they repeatedly say "because it is a sin." smh - that will only hold for so long especially if they dont have a relationship with God like that or that in tuned with  the church . I think in religion they are so quick to tell the rules and the main objective should be to develop a relationship with Christ and then lay down the rules - rules usually overlooked for anything you dont know much about or have not developed a relationship with or some form of attachment too. i think sex should be talked about in a genuine form - its good to have when you are in steady relationship - the older you get the more of a challenge you will have to control your hormones , sex is less complicated majority of time when held for marriage. Most of what i know about sex came from my peers in high school. what brought me to discuss this topic was a friend - we were having a discussion that upset me - mind you i am 20 years old and i was in a four year relationship - why are ppl still telling to wait until im married to have sex because they have had a bad experience within a few months-hmmm-that is annoying - i dont know it all about relationships - but I'm out of my teenage years and I'm old enough to understand consequences and I have self control -thats all Im saying so can one please save the "dont do its" for somebody younger and who maybe hasnt entered a long term relationship- everybody is going to have different experiences or a different experience from sex- just because all the ppl you have talked to have had bad experiences, dont mean it will work out that way for you - different variables lead to different results. im not being naive my friend im just being real.alot of this sex talk ties more into religion - i will save that for another blog - sex is something i think if its going to be casual should be taken with extreme caution -i  personally believe alot of kids are being brought up as if they are mistakes and that not a good thing because they are the future - i really just wish sex wasnt so casual period . it doesnt seem to give a relationship much to look forward to .  i think it should if anything be meant for to people who want to continue to be together in the future - it may not happen that way but they on the same level as feelings go about each other . alot of women and girls -smh -come to be like a one way stop- that is why im big on valuing oneself as an individual- dont give and expect to recieve- - but dont sleep with a man thinking you gonna be his woman , or the sex had him hypnotized, or you have him on lock , or that he will be back -one thing my mama taught me is everything aint about feelings - men are not emotional like women - they are simple creatures and were made to want sex - and that is what it is - sex is sex for them - to be in love is probably more of a bonus. . some may want the sex+love at one time ,others may just want the sex..one must treat oneself as they would want somebody else to treat them , dont expect anything but have standards for oneself - value yourself to where everyone is not getting a chance to throw coins in your well , or being able to check in the hotel without charge .